Marriage, anyone?
No, I’m not extolling anyone to marry me, but rather, asking the question whether marriage as an institution bears any relevance today. Marriages are made in heaven, but I disagree, I don’t think there is any magical, ethereal quality to marriage. That’s just a romantic’s viewpoint. I would rather look at marriage as a real issue, filled with daily struggles to communicate and get that blessed damn thing right!
Marriage brings with it responsibility, so you better not stray while you’re married. Marriage also means adjustment, attunement and a lot of reading between the lines. I am rather wary of attaching anything rosy or picturesque to marriage.
Since there are so many divorces taking place, it could probably be that marriage, as an institution, has failed. And that live in and long distance relationships are equally important. I hate the traditional view of marriage, wherein, a woman plays the part of a sacrificial lamb, waiting the next axe, and the man plays the significant part of saviour and redeemer, how chauvinistic!
I am not married, and I love my freedom. I have no one to answer to and I live the way I want, within my means. Very often, marriage turns out to be a better step into the future, an end to idealistic singledom and a journey of togetherness and interdependence.
But that truth is also changing for the coming generations, who have to live with infidelity, excessive competitiveness, over dependence and a certain nagging attachment. How gross! While everyone knows that there is no ideal situation, the closest that one can come to it is to marry someone who loves you for who you are. And take a less dominating view towards the relationship and leave something for the almighty to do. God save us!
Neha Singh
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