Get rid of that excess baggage!!
Friends are all too good, but if you’re always on the giving end, then you better throw your relationships out. I have friends who are the most presentable and orderly, but they are inexorably losers. Like even when you go out for a good time, they are constantly plotting and planning something nasty. I also have friends who just lie around at home, doing nothing and appear to be very competitive when they face up to you. What the hell was that? Competitive homeliness?
Then I have friends who never think good things. They always fail and always encourage others to do so. In my guy friends I constantly have sex-deprived and serial lovers surrounding me. They think they are very smart by constantly engaging in complex relationships around people and work conditions. But they are good for only that purpose. They fill no other need or requirement and fail at any application of mind, skill or intellect. I have had the misfortune to work with some of the worst kinds of people there are. At my last job, I had a colleague who would constantly grab all the work, food, my chair, my belongings and my identity. She had the gall to question our CEO and VP and people lapped up all the craziness!! When I stood up against her, I was criticized.
I think the choice you make in selecting people around you makes all the difference. In my case lots of people want to warm up to me, but I generally throw most of them out of my vicinity. If you don’t have matching ideologies and concepts, you might as well look elsewhere. My friends tell me that it is good to bribe and have serial relationships, break others’ families and take over others’ properties; too much idealism is not good. But these are the ones who have never had any professional or personal success and have to pull others down to survive. Yes, they’re still my friends!
To end on a good note, I have noticed that there can never be friendliness amongst equals. Only someone higher than you will bail you out. And not some one just higher by a few notches, but someone really much better off. I don’t think it’s worthwhile to spend time in creating other lose-lose relationships. I’d rather say no and would encourage newcomers in the field to better stay away from pathetic company as it’s a real drain to your energy. Finally, it’s better to stay alone than in the company of such parasites. Best of luck for your search for that appealing (appalling) best friend!!
Neha Singh
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